“How Was School Today?”

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Well parents, school is in full swing – I’m right in the middle of grieving the loss of summer independence and dreaming of my fall decor. The way I see it, the back-to-school emotions of us caregivers can be placed on a spectrum, which ranges from ugly tears about spending less time with our babies (however old they may actually be), to literally dancing with a heart of joy because we get to spend less time with them.

Come on, let’s be honest. Where do you fall?

I have a three year old, so I’m a little more toward the ugly tears end, but she has yet to shed one tear about “school.”  It can’t be all bad… right?

If you have a verbal, school-aged child, you’re well aware of the response we can sometimes get from our dear ones when asked,

“So, how was school today?”

If you don’t have a verbal child, but they still attend some sort of Mom’s Day Out program or Childcare program, I strongly encourage you to still talk to them about their day. I am a big advocate of talking to your child from day one. The experts agree about this too. I digress.

Now, my question is usually full of excitement and wonder. My daughter’s response, however, is sometimes not. Sometimes I just get excited mumbo-jumbo flowing freely from her pink lips. Other times, I get a shrug of the shoulders along with some grunting noise. And sometimes, I literally get her saying (with slight attitude) “nothing!”. Pictured above are just a few of the faces I can expect to see from my daughter when asked about school.

So, to curb the grunting-nothingness that I sometimes get from my involved mom question, I do some digging ask some more pointed questions. Side note: I’m learning that my three year old does better with specific questions or commands. She needs some direction. Go figure. My guess is that this is true for children of all ages. Heck, I think it would help me keep my house more clean! For example: Instead of telling my daughter to go clean her room, I take it task by task. I’ll start with asking her to put all of her shoes in the pink box. If that is still too general, we go for the shoes with purple on them first, or the shoes with velcro. No wonder parents are exhausted! 🙂

Why not apply this method to asking about a school day, so we can really get to know our little (or big) ones, communicate genuine interest in their lives, and help support and guide them?

I’ve seen a couple of lists floating around about how to ask your kids about their day. Here’s what works for us (sometimes). Keep in mind to adjust for the age of your child. Obviously, your 17 year old isn’t playing on the playground or sitting at circle time, per say.

  • What was your favorite part of your day?
  • What was your favorite thing you did today?
  • Who did you play with?
  • What did you play with together?
  • Did you play on the playground?
  • What did you play on the playground?
  • What did you eat (or usually not eat) for lunch?
  • Who did you sit by at circle time?
  • What books did you read?
  • What’s your favorite book in the classroom?
  • What songs did you sing?
  • What was the hardest/most frustrating part of your day?
  • Did you disagree with anyone today?
  • How did your friends make you feel today?
  • How did you listen and obey your teacher?

Be cognizant of how your child is wired, and be sensitive to what “state” they’re in. They may be exhausted and/or overstimulated as soon as they’re done with school, and want quiet to decompress for a minute. That’s good; it’s their personality and part of what makes them, them. Help your child (whatever the age) to identify this in themselves, learn what to do about it, and then respect and celebrate that piece of them. Ask them at another time: dinner, while getting on their level and playing with them, while you’re getting bedtime cuddles, or taking away their phones for the evening.

If we’re having a “nothing” day at our house, my daughter will usually unload at dinner or during bedtime snuggles. Last week, at the dinner table (I really value family dinners), I asked her who her new friends were at school. She told us they were Shelby and Carson, that she loved them, and they were her best friends. So sweet! I asked her what she loved about them, and she literally said, “Their heart and their spirit.” WHAT?! My three year old said that? Which TV show did she learn THAT from? 🙂

My hope is that this post spurs some of your own ideas about ways to connect with your child and develop a genuine trust and relationship with them. Comment and let me know what works in your house – I’d love to hear!


About Lionheart: Lionheart Children’s Academy is a non-profit Christian organization committed to excellence in early childhood education. We are passionate about equipping kids to be world changers, and supporting working parents who need quality, affordable care and education for their children.

Our first center is located at Lake Arlington Baptist Church in South Arlington.

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One comment

  1. I love it! Asking my two year old about her day at school is one of my favorite parts of the day, and after working with the high school children at my church for a while now, I can tell you that asking pointed, open-ended questions works well with them too 🙂

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